Review: How to Win Friends and Influence People


How to Win Friends and Influence People How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie
My rating: 4 of 5 stars

It’s been a very long time since I’ve read this book. I didn’t realize how deeply it affected me until reading it a second time and thinking, “Wow, I’m really living all this.” In hindsight, I’m glad I read it at an impressionable young age. There is a certain expectation in young males to value things like competitiveness, aloofness, precision. Dale Carnegie slashes through such ideas with a philosophy bent on sympathy, courtesy, and compromise. He is quite sexist, but considering the time period, I won’t judge the message by the messenger. The meat of his message seems to be “if you are a selfish person, try selflessness as a tool to get what you want.” He does stress the necessity of being genuine, which tempers the “go get ’em” attitude. Regardless of its flaws, it is an important work for anyone looking to shore up their interpersonal communication skills.

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Victor A. Davis has always loved reading and writing short stories. He is an avid hiker and even when away from the world of laptops and wifi, keeps a pocket paperback and a handwritten journal to keep him company on trail. He is the author of two short story collections, Grains of Sand and The Gingerbread Collection. Join his Mailing List for special announcements about upcoming works.